Marriage is a strange thing to do, or at least it can appear so if you attempt to perceive it from some sort of ‘other’ perspective.
‘This is really strange.. why are we doing this?’ well ‘strange’ is simply uncommon, everything is strange that isn’t normal, and marriage has long been normal for the majority of people so it isn’t really strange. If you imagine anything that is common place didn’t exist, and then suggest it, it would seem strange. Apart from, I guess, running water or irrigation. But, in a way, the man does have a point, and that point is about religion. Something like marriage is slowly entering a new reality, a reality where its original ideological justification of religion has less of a grip on peoples perspective on reality. Marriage has always been a ceremonially religious practice, but underneath that surface has lain the true structural requirements it fulfils of economic structure, of familial bonds as they serve capitalism, of the servitude of woman to husband and children and of husband to industry and labour. So, in the end, when the justification for this whole bizarre, aggressive, ritualistic and trapping practice is revealed to simply be ‘tax purposes’ we actually see a key contradiction of our modern world play out.
For large sways of people religion and god is not really a part of their lives. Either they are atheistic or lapsed or simply do not care. Certainly, for a growing section of the population the idea of forming their life and their loves around a relationship with God would seem bizarre. Their are only three drives now; love, pragmatic concerns (money, tax, status) and tradition. Your family wants you to get married, you’ve always wanted to have the ceremony etc etc. The institution snow can perhaps be reformed for these goals. If your marriage is pragmatic then just go sign a form. The irony is this: if marriage is openly pragmatic it may eventually loose its status, as it’s importance and legal status is partially built around its existence as a religious and cultural tradition right, and that religion and that culture continues now as somewhat of a charade (when was the last time you heard two of your friends were getting married in a church and you new they were both deeply religious?) because they have become part of the language of our expression of love and life and its progress. To get married in a church you have to profess a connection with god, a connection which for many is a lie. If we stop lying, how long will marriage really stick around?
Summer is coming and that is a pleasant thing for all, and also a beginning to the busiest time of the year for weddings. I’d say that a majority of people want a summer wedding. Some may fancy snow but no one wants it to rain on their wedding day, there are even a few long running superstitions that rain on your wedding day basically means that your wedding is cursed and you are going to be miserable and you’ll both probably die soon. Not very kind, these superstitions. A little harsh reallllllly to make some young couple think that their marriage is doomed because of something completely out of their control. But hey, what are families for?!
Yeah… good work! Anyways, we’ve reached the end of the winter wedding season and now have the opportunity to take a little look back at some of the styles that emerged over the period. Now, here is something that I have not seen myself and have not been given any pictures of, but apparently Amelia Jane fur bobble hats were popping up all over the place at weddings last winter. The hats are pretty nice…
Just wondering- have you lot seen these all over the place? Am I just being misled? Answers to the normal address…
It is hard not to be touched by a wedding ceremony, when the love and commitment feel genuine. For me, someone who can be quickly put off by self-aggrandisement and pomp and circumstance, weddings are somewhat gross and horrible. But still, when there, when there is a moment of genuine joy from the couple, all the bullshit peals away, and you realize that what ever the cultural meme’s through which this joy is filtered, and however destructive, insidious and pervasive some of these cultural memes may be, there is still a core of joy there, and that is beautiful, life-affirming and important.
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Where would we be without the Emergency Services? Well, some of us would be completely dead. I have a complicated relationship with the concept of the police, who obviously exist as a political entity, an extension of the state, and it’s violent arm of self-reservation and enforcement. They also save lives and stop bad people doing some things. All I’d say is that policing has to be a thankless task, they must be constantly tested, they must never feel their power sits too freely, it’s just too great a risk,..
What is a wedding? It is a deceleration of love. A deceleration of commitment. A deceleration of a union. It is a deceleration of two people connecting their lives together . Ones life becomes the others. Ones feelings and emotions become the others. Ones dreams mix with the others. When one breaths, one breaths with the other.